Can you share a lesson that you learned later in life and how it has impacted your current lifestyle, mentality, or attitude?

It’s very settling.

I couldn’t say No to strangers talking & invading my personal life. It made me uncomfortable but somehow I entertained forcibly. This made me realize that I was an easy target for them. They thought of me as an easy prey. This always ended up hurting me because I knew there should be a boundary set , yet I couldn’t set it as I was just a naive small town girl

It’s very freeing.

According to the Gita, how do I abandon fruits of my karma? Should I donate my whole salary and stay hungry?

Whether it was a friend asking for a favor, an invitation I didn’t feel like accepting, or even a stranger requesting my time, I hesitated to say no

I am thankful to my profession & how I started from scratch that I was able to become so blunt & straight forward.

-Smita Mishra

Why is our generation so unhappy?

But here’s the hard truth I learned much later in life.

No is a complete sentence & it should not be just used for CONSENT for sex.

It drained me, messed with my peace, and cluttered my mind with unnecessary stress.

How should one respond to compliments such as "You are so special" and "I'm lucky to have met you" from a guy?

I always felt obligated to be polite, to be accommodating, to be the “nice” person because the dictionary of ‘good girl’ means they should be accommodating according to the society.

I was always that one eager person to help someone in need without realising the consequences it might have. I have helped people from Quora & other places during the time when I had nothing on me. I couldn’t say No when a man manipulated me into giving him a huge amount for his daughters education during Covid. I later got fed up asking him to return. He returned after two years. His wife was a working lady at a good corporate place. He lied to me as he wanted money for his alcohol addiction

This is how I paid for not being able to say NO.

Do you think there will ever be a movie that features a line such as “You graduated at the top of your class in liberal arts, we need your help”?

Many people especially girls will be able to connect with this answer.

I used to be the kind of person who found it incredibly hard to say no. I would keep people’s feelings above mine.

It’s very refreshing.

What do you think of the 2 female 18 and 19 year-old German tourists, detained in Honolulu, strip-searched, put in green jumpsuits, placed in a holding cell and the next day deported, for the terrible crime of not pre-booking a hotel for their trip?

I lost a lot of money trying to fit in. I don’t like expensive English meals at fancy restaurants. But my friends did. I couldn’t say No thinking I would be judged. But I love ‘Desi food’. I didn’t enjoy the food, & I ended up paying huge split bills so many times

I have ruined my sleep & rest hours with nonsense calls from nonsense people. No matter what the time, I have picked up their calls & listened to their rant for hours. I could not be blunt saying, ‘no am not interested in talking’

I would spend hours, sometimes days, replaying the decision in my head, regretting my response, wishing I had been honest.

Have you ever been humiliated in front of a group of girls and enjoyed it?

I lost a lot of my time to help, keeping my needs aside & the favour was never returned because most people took my time for granted & I also hesitated to ask for help

But my mind wouldn’t let go of it.

It’s very freeing.

What isइस संसार में पहले भागवान आया की इंसान?

It has been an easy life.

Everytime I said yes when I wanted to say no, I paid the price.

No meant she is being rebellious.

How do I confess to my crush who had a traumatic past with his previous partner without losing the friendship?